Oh, arbiter of all things poetic, which is the best rhyme for diverse -- curse, hearse or reverse?
They're all fine, though reverse is slightly weaker since it is a little more pleasing for rhyming words to have an unequal number of syllables.
I'm so thankful that egocentric men have very high standards for the attractiveness of their women -- it makes them easier for us normal women to avoid them. I wonder how much this changes over the years. Next time, can you break this down by age as well as self-determined level of attractiveness? I want to know if old arrogant men, as well as the young ones, demand hot women.
I have said this before, but will say it again because it is SO self-serving: I believe that the better looking the man, the less skill he feels he needs in the boudoir, and vice versa: ergo, ladies, if you want a great lover, you want a homunculus.
See, here's what I don't understand. You say you're flabby, have laughable hair and extremely unfashionable facial hair. Two of those items could be fixed in under an hour, yet you wear them like badges of pride. Why?
I could write a book to answer this question. I'll address the hair alone: I am embarrassed by my hair, but would be more embarrassed to be thought of as the kind of person who cares about what his hair looks like.
Insane? Arguably, yes.
I suggested the poll (and included the link to Metafilter, by the way). But what I found far more interesting than the original question and discussion was the following comment. I still can't decide whether the writer has made the right decision in withholding a compliment that his wife is obviously desperate to hear but that he believes he cannot make honestly and that she would not accept. "My wife is ugly. She knows it and I know it, but we've never talked about it. It's that hard. Until I met her, fell in love with her, and married her, I never really understood what a burden ugliness is, especially for a woman. I've never told her that she's beautiful, something that I just said automatically and spontaneously to so many girlfriends. In a candid sad moment once she told me that no one told her she was beautiful on our wedding day. When we watch movies and someone tells a woman how beautiful she is I cringe inside, because it is a reminder of how huge and every present this myth of beauty is. It's what every woman is told she is supposed to be pretty much from the day she's born, and my wife just isn't that. She fails it utterly, and there are just constant reminders of it. So that's all very depressing, but I'm telling you this because I did fall in love with her and I did marry her, and we're very happy together, and we have two beautiful children (there's that word again, sorry). And in case it matters, I'm not ugly myself. I've been told that I'm attractive, and I went to a good college and have been reasonably successful in life. So I don't think she had to trade down to find someone to marry her. I didn't either, that's the thing. I'm writing this because all these other people are responding kind of telling you not to worry about it, but I'm not sure they really understand how hard it is for a woman to be ugly, with uneven droopy eyes and uneven lips and bad skin and the rest. It's hard and I feel for you. But I also wanted to write to assure that there's still hope, and there's still love out there for you. There was and is for my wife, so I know there can be for you too."
You know, I think his is a failure of imagination, and of language. There are ways of telling a conventionally unattractive person that she is beautiful without lying.
Just for the record, I find this guy's line "I've been told that I'm attractive" to be revealing, in a not so great way.
I am definitely a cute girl, but I am not hot (I have only been described as hot once, and it was while nude with an ex boyfriend--so I'll take it). I have twice found myself being really close friends with extremely attractive guys. Like, the guys were/are so hot I couldn't believe we were friends (I think this stems from being a serious nerd and dork in high school, but I have always thought I was a really cool person--it just took me a really long time to come out of my awkward-looking phase). I am certain that if I were conventionally hot, these guys and I would have had something. I mean, it kinda sucks, but I totally know it's their loss and they have weird hangups (since I was close with them and talk about relationship stuff and know what types of girls they are attracted to, I am quite familiar with the hangups). Luckily my self esteem is pretty high and this doesn't really bother me and they're obviously idiots... but it's just interesting how I have had crushes on guys of all shapes and sizes--I would definitely say the more attractive guys are, the pickier they get. I dunno. This is just from my experience. I often see very, very attractive women with quasimodos, and I very VERY seldom see really attractive men with less attractive women.
Gina has a line in "I'm With Stupid" that addresses exactly this. She says that the best proof that men are shallow is that gay men tend to dress and groom themselves well, whereas gay women will go for the easiest-to-manage haircut. This is because, she says, gay men are dressing for men, and gay women are dressing for women.
If I were single and looking, I would not be particularly afraid of trying to court a gorgeous woman. I would know I might have a shot, even though I am basically an amorphous blob of protoplasm with unattractive facial hair. That is because women are better and look deeper.
I think there should have been an option like, "I am female and don't consider myself unattractive, nor would I ever use the word 'plain' to describe myself, but at the same time, don't really feel I can choose 'consider myself physically attractive,' which seems to imply some level of hotness I'm not sure I have." Without that, I just sat frozen trying to decide how to proceed.
Okay, this made me laff.
Gene, I know you're fascinated by the Republican Mug (from Fishs Eddy). Did you know there's an equally artistic Democratic Mug as well? My husband and I own the matched set. :) We use them to hold our toothbrushes, alternating based on how scummy they get.
It's funny you mention this because I live in the town as one of the people you profile. And I was thinking the other day -- I remember how hard it was to get the great Commonwealth of Virginia to make seatbelts mandatory (and even blaze orange for hunters). I remember the auto industry saying it was too expensive for air bags -- and something like the Cincinnati guy's invention would NOT bankrupt car makers to install. The excuses the auto industry gives for not doing more is just plain lame.
Janette Fennel, the woman who runs Kids In Cars, spent ten years trying to get automakers to put a lock-release pull-chain in the trunk of every new car. Every step of the way she was opposed by the auto industry, which claimed it was prohibitively expensive. It's now in all cars, at a cost of about a nickel.
Evidently there were a lot of Nazi Heroes if you proscribe to this thinking.
You mean "subscribe."
But yes, there WERE a lot of Nazi "heroes." Under my definition, if you fight and die for your country, you are a hero. The better question is who are they a hero to? They were a hero to Germans.