Thank you for your question.
In my opinion, the countries today that claim to be "Islamic countries" are nothing but Muslim majority societies are not following the true teachings of Islam. I think this is a consensus among most of the American Muslims and world wide scholars. There is corruption throughout their governments and people are mistreated. This is what has led to the successful uprisings in Tunisia and Egypt and the current revolutions in Syria and Libya.
Muslims and non-Muslims are not treated well in those countries unless they are from the elite. So, Muslim Americans are better off than other Muslims and non-Muslims living in those societies.
Further, it is a fallacy that non-Muslims living under Islamic law have to convert or die. The Quran says "There is no comulsion in religion." 3:256. People cannot be forced to accept the religion. And those who are not Muslims are not expected to follow its tenets.
The worst that has happened to American Muslims since 9/11 is the distrust that has crept among our fellow citizens. This is partly our fault for not reaching out to our neighbors and doing our job as good citizens.
My wife is standing behind us in prayer because this is how God has commanded us to pray. The men stand in the front and the women in the back or on the side. I am not a scholar and don't know exactly the reason we are told to do this but I beleive it may be due to the position of prostration.
When Islam first came to Muhammad and his people women were not allowed property rights, baby girls were buried alive because of the fact they were girls and women were treated as slaves. Islam came and the first to embrace the message of Muhammad was his wife, Khadija, who is said to be the first PERSON that will enter Heaven. Women were given rights and the Arab people were told NOT to bury their children. There aresaying of the Prophet wherein it is said that Heaven is under your mother's feet (so respect her and listen to her).
I wholeheartedly beleve that women are treated equally under Islam.



