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My little sister Rebecca recently confessed to me that she and her boyfriend Tyler have been filming themselves having sex. She says it excites her, because she's always felt pressure to be a good girl. Our parents aren't rigidly conservative by any means, but I know they'd object to Rebecca making sex tapes, not least of all because she's sixteen and Tyler is nineteen. I'm not sure what to do, because I am worried my parents will lose their heads if I tell them. But, as I pointed out, Rebecca is underage, and it won't end well for Tyler if the authorities are alerted. As an older sister, what's my duty?

Dear Prudence, A couple of years ago my then-boyfriend broke up with me because I was too clingy and unstable. I couldn't see it then, but in retrospect I totally agree with his diagnoses. I was convinced that if I tried hard enough he would love me again. I spent many months calling him at home, at work, even his parents' house, to the point where he changed his numbers twice. I always found out his new numbers and texted him repeatedly to beg him to reconsider. He felt sorry for me at first but he quickly became hostile (understandably) as I turned more desperate. I heard that he even considered getting a restraining order from me. I really made his life hell. To cut the long story short, I started receiving therapy and did a lot of soul searching before realizing what a messed up person I was. I couldn't see it before but now I feel completely ashamed of my behavior. I want to send a final letter of apology to my ex - not a phone call in case he finds it too confrontational - and tell him how sorry I am to have harrassed him the way I did. However, there is a part of me that thinks he probably never wants to hear from me again and it's best to leave him alone. What do you think? -Regretful

My husband's youngest sister and her husband are infertile and had several rounds of IVF with no success. They approached me and my husband about surrogacy. I reluctantly agreed, after a lot of pressure from my husband and his family, and was implanted with embryos consisting of my sister-in-law's eggs and donor sperm. I am now six months pregnant. Last week we found out that my sister-in-law left her husband and is now living in another country with a lover. Brother-in-law told my husband last night that he was filing for divorce and wants nothing more to do with our family, including this child I'm carrying. We are attempting to contact my husband's sister but she is not returning our calls. We know she is okay because she has been in contact with his parents and has "explained the whole thing to them." We, apparently, are not going to hear the whole story and I have no idea what is going to happen with this baby I am carrying. My husband said we may have to keep it and raise until his sister figures out what she wants to do. His family agrees. I feel like I have fallen through the looking glass. Our youngest is 7 years old and I do not want to have to go back to diapers, bottles and midnight wake-ups. I also don't want to bring a child into our home and raise it never knowing when his sister might show up and take it. No one is listening to me. I don't even know what legal obligations I am going to have towards this child. I can't even think straight right now. I would really appreciate some advice.

My neighbor recently adopted a dog with distinctive brown and black markings. Last week my daughter brought home a LOST DOG flyer with a picture of a dog with the exact same distinctive markings. The flyer detailed how much the owners missed their dog. I brought the flyer to my neighbor's attention and told her I believed the dog on the flyer was the dog she adopted. My neighbor curtly told me to mind my own business and snatched the flyer from my hands. Now I'm not sure what to do. I'm 99% certain my neighbor's dog is the lost dog. Should I risk being wrong and ruining my relationship with my neighbor?

At my twenty-sixth birthday my childhood best friend Corinne apparently hit it off with my fifty-six-year-old, widowed dad. They enjoyed one another's company, grabbed coffee a few days later, and one thing led to another. Now they've been dating for six months, and their relationship has become serious enough that they've told my brother and me about it. On the one hand, I'm very happy that my lonely father has found someone he might love. On the other hand, no matter how much I tell myself that they're both grown, intelligent adults, I can't suppress the giant GROSS! that rises in me when I think of them together. I'm not sure how to handle this -- and I want to handle this maturely -- because I have so many different emotions and thoughts. What can I do to become more comfortable with their relationship,which is complicated by her and me being close in age and our past friendship?

Remind your little sister that it's incredibly easy for those tapes to wind up on the Internet, and all it would take is a few minutes for the boyfriend to post them on porn sites. If she doesn't think he'd do that, think again, because clearly plenty of boyfriends and ex boyfriends have done it. They might consider looking online to make sure he hasn't already.

I agree making sex tapes as a 16 year old is not the best idea, but every teenager needs to be exploring his/her sexuality in some way, just like they are exploring every other important area of identity. That doesn't necessarily mean having intercourse, but being a sexual person doesn't mean you're going to flunk out of school!

Last August a classmate named Greg began stalking me. Eventually Greg's stalking led to his expulsion from our university. He told his friends he was leaving college because I broke his heart and slept around on him. I am in the same major as two of Greg's good friends, Jake and Melissa, so we have several classes together each quarter. They ignore me when we have group discussions and have left me out of group emails when we've worked together on class projects. When I began dating another person in our major, Melissa "enlightened" him about my true character. Thankfully the guy disregarded her slander, but now I feel like I have to address Jake and Melissa's resentment towards me. I'm not sure what to do, though, probably because I'm pretty frazzled right now. For personal reasons I'd like to keep the stalking quiet, but maybe telling them what really happened is the only way to get them to stop?

I doubt the little sister's escapades are on actual tapes- it's probably digitally recorded on a cell phone or computer. The little sister needs to make sure her boyfriend deletes these videos. Even if he is a good guy who won't disseminate the videos online, his gear could be hacked or stolen!

Dear Prudence, Two years ago, one of my older sisters, "Jenny," moved to a state across the country. She is married and has a two-year old son, "Todd," so my mother would frequently go out to visit, staying at her house for a week or so. About three months ago, Jenny called me after one of these visits and said her husband, "Chris," had seen our mother molesting Todd. She also said that earlier in the week, Todd became very clingy and told Jenny he was "scared of grandmama." Our mother has a history of inappropriate behavior (including several arrests for shoplifting), and touched me inappropriately when I was very young. Despite my urgings, Jenny has always let her around Todd. Now, our family has truly been ripped apart. Jenny cut off communication with our mother but still talks to our father, and while my other two sisters have not stopped talking to Jenny, they don't believe our mother actually molested Todd (even though they both know about what happened when I was a kid). They have never liked Chris and think he is a liar. I'm confused by so many things and just don't know what to do. Jenny refuses to see a counselor or take Todd to one. In the last couple weeks, she has been wavering on whether or not to reconcile, which makes me furious. It also makes me wonder if she too is questioning Chris's story, or if my father's pleas are just making her feel guilty. Please give me advice. It's getting harder and harder to maintain all of my family relationships (and my sanity). -Confused and stuck in the middle.

My girlfriend of two years, with whom I have the perfect relationship,  searched through my old emails and chat messages (for an unknown reason and without provocation). While I've never cheated on her, she did find conversations I had with friends during our courtship that are understandably very upsetting to her. It wasn't "love at first sight" for me, so she uncovered instances of me saying things like "She's nice and all, but I think I want to play the field more," or, "It's clear that she likes me a lot more than I like her." She also found out that I casually dated other women concurrently with her (only in the beginning, of course). Though I was unsure at first, our relationship has blossomed, and I'm head over heels in love with her and know I want to marry her when we're ready. I feel horrible that she saw those things I said, but they no longer apply. She now feels insecure and mad at herself for "being so naive" about the early stages of our relationship. Prudie, how do I convince her that she's the girl I love and want to be with forever? I'm not even mad that she went through my emails. Other than this hiccup, we're the perfect couple. I know she feels the same way about me. Thank you.

I wrote to you a few weeks ago because my husband's affair partner applied for a job at my company, and I would have been responsible for hiring her. I decided not to call her for an interview because I could never have worked with her. She applied to another position in a different department, one that works closely with mine. My counterpart in that department decided to bring her in for an interview, which apparently she did very well in. Now my counterpart has asked me to sit in on the next interview in the hiring process. Three people from various departments would interview her to see if she fits with the company. Again I'm at a loss as to what I should do. I want to expose this woman but don't think it'd be professional. I would love more advice.

It sounds like the LW doesn't want to rock the boat, but the most important people in the equation are the children involved. The LW should call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) and get advice on how to proceed. The grandmother is a predator and needs professional help. It's not enough just to keep her away from Todd - what about other children she may come in contact with?

Not sure you have to do it this second .... but maybe the police should be involved if the child's mother won't act? I realize this could cause even more upset, but this child's life is at stake. If she won't keep him away, if you think it's true and if grandma has a history, it's really important that above all else, that kid be protected.

Last week my husband left his Facebook page up and I saw a conversation between him and a friend during which my husband disclosed that he is an atheist, but asked his friend to say nothing to me about it since he believes I would divorce him over it. My husband and I have been together for five years and I just gave birth to our second son. During the course of our relationship he has represented only that he is a Christian, like myself. I don't know what to do at this point. I have said nothing yet. We don't go to church, and I would not say that I am very devout, however, I do wish to bring our boys up in a Christian household. Additionally, I feel betrayed by what I see as a substantial lie. Our wedding vows were taken before God, a God that he doesn't believe exists. How should I bring up the issue and do you think talk of divorce would be overreacting?

Either she's deeply, deeply insecure or you just got a glimpse into being married to someone highly controlling. I'd really, really reconsider your desire to marry someone who would hack into your chats and email, then pin perfectly innocuous information against you, then beat herself up and leave YOU to reassure her. Are you serious?

I recently discovered that my younger brother submitted naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend to a now-defunct website that reposts such pictures and adds links to the subject's social media profiles. I'm pretty disgusted with my brother, who not only shared pictures his ex-girlfriend gave to him in confidence but shows no remorse for doing so. He says (and some people might agree) that anyone who sends a naked/risqué picture, even if it's to a loved one, should expect it to end up online eventually. I disagree, because people do foolish things when it comes to love, but since you have a large readership I'm hoping you'll post this story as a cautionary tale: In today's digital world, NEVER take a naked picture of yourself unless you're prepared for it to show up online and for your nearest and dearest to see it. Even if you love the person you send the picture to, even if you really trust them, loved ones can become jerks after a breakup.