You already know. You just outlined it for me. You:
-- Save a LOT
-- You have only a mortgage.. (I discourage saying things such as "no debt except.") Just say you have a mortgage :)
-- You give to charity
-- You are on the same page financially as you "boo" or for those not used to Baltimore slang, you honey, you baby, your husband.
So let go.
I know it's hard. Like you I grew up poor with a grandmother who didn't spend on herself much at all. I get the pressure to use your money wisely always.
But antoher wise way to use your money when you are doing the right things with that money is to splurge. I do it.
Okay my splurge is usuallya book on Kindle and even then I feel bad, but I force myself to do something for myself.
However, if this helps you have my permission to do something -- within financial reason -- for yourself within the next week. I mean it!
And I want you to report back to me next week in the chat.